Surviving The Newborn Phase
My life changed forever when my sweet little boy entered the world on July 13th, 2016. I truly love being a mom. I have become more selfless than I could have ever imagined. That being said, I’ve discovered one thing. Being “selfless” doesn’t mean you should give up your self-esteem. I’m a big believer in the idea that if you feel your best, you will be a better mom for your little one. I know personally, when I’m feeling better about myself, I am a happier and more patient mom to Owen.
I know what you’re thinking… that’s a nice idea and all but who has the TIME? I get it. From birth until about 3 months your whole world is one sleepy blur. There were a few things that helped me to feel like my “normal” self during the newborn phase and I want to share them with you!
Tip 1- Find a ridiculously simple makeup routine that you can execute in 2 minutes and just stick to that! People are going to be coming over to your house to see that sweet baby and even though you feel exhausted, it’s the best confidence booster to hear someone say “you look great”! So even if you don’t feel “great” put on some mascara, concealer and lip gloss because let me tell you, having mascara on feels like a victory when your trying to survive the newborn phase.
Tip 2- Everyone is going to tell you the same thing… “Sleep when the baby sleeps”. That’s a nice thought but is 30 minutes of rest reeeaaalllyyy going to help you get through the day in the scheme of things? Probably not. I just accepted the fact that I was going to be exhausted and used that time for myself. A shower, face mask and a cup of coffee basically feel like a full spa day. Whatever it is you think will make you feel best, do THAT. Sleep will come later.
Tip 3- Have some nice looking workout attire waiting for you when you get home from the hospital. The harsh reality is that your clothes are going to fit differently at first. As tempting as it is to stay in pajama pants all day, the days I put on some nice leggings and a track jacket I felt like a new woman. I’m not asking you to jump into your jeans and button down blouse, just take it up a notch from your pajamas. Also, you know that phrase “do as I say, not as I do”? You should apply that here. I sported my snowflake clad pajama pants during the Texas summer on more days than I would like to admit…
Tip 4- Now is not the time to stress about what your body looks like. You just created a human. Give yourself some grace and time. That being said, try to make healthier decisions during the day. Drink plenty of water, maybe go for a salad at lunch instead of leftover pizza etc. I don’t say this because of baby weight, I say this because you are already exhausted and your body has gone through A LOT. You don’t want to make yourself feel worse by bogging down your body with a ton of heavy food. Another thing is that your skin can change so much! Since having Owen, my skin is pretty acne prone and I have to be very cautious of what I consume during the day to keep it under control. Before you go into labor, try making healthier meals that you can freeze and cook as needed.
Tip 5- If you’re a breastfeeding/pumping momma it can be SO hard on you. I would use that time to watch a YouTube video or catch up on an episode of one of my favorite shows. It may sound silly but it helps you catch your breath and relax for a little bit and take your mind off “all things baby”.
Tip 6- Make Amazon Prime your new best friend. Just do it. So helpful.
Lastly, remember that the exhaustion will fade and it does get easier! Hopefully, this can help some of you soon to be mommas or even moms of older kids. This can still apply to you! The moral of the story is, don’t forget to take care of YOU while still taking care of your little one.